May 11, 2017
What the funk?
Being in a funk is draining, distracting, and disruptive to our lives. It can last a day, a week, or sometimes even longer. What keeps it stuck is resistance. The resistance to being in a funk is what keeps it close and alive.
It’s important to remember that it’s going to happen. It’s part of life. We go into a funk and we come out of it. So, since it’s going to show up again and again, welcome it! If you avoid and ignore that’s the resistance piece that keeps it hanging on.
Then, the more we resist being in it, the more it sticks onto us. Resistance makes it last longer, makes it more intense and the more uncomfortable we will be. The spiral goes downward and we suffer more.
The goal isn’t to make sure it never happens again.
The goal is to lessen the effect of the funk. These stints either won’t happen as often, won’t last as long, or will be much less intense.
Here’s what we can do the next time “the funk” happens…
Step 1. Say hello to it.
Sound silly? Try it, it works. “Hello, Funk, how ya doing?” When we are in resistance, sometimes we don’t even want to admit there is a problem. “I’m not in a funk. I’m totally fine.” That’s when the funk intensifies. For a much wanted shift to occur, we have to first notice that it’s present. Ignoring the issue won’t make it go away, but putting your attention on something that doesn’t want to be seen will immediately bring light to the situation. It’s necessary for awakening.
Step 2. Accept where you are.
Notice if you are judging yourself for being where you are and feeling like you are in a “bad” place. Release the judgement. Where ever you are is right where you are supposed to be. And ask, “What’s right about this funk?”
Step 3. Welcome the discomfort.
Welcome all of it, including the feelings, the depression, anxiety, the pity party. Welcome all that shit and give it a name. “I’m going to name you _____.” When you give it a name it becomes separate from you. It’s not you, it’s an energy that affects you. I named my past funk “The Angry Funk.” There was a good amount of anger coming up for me during this chunk of time. Others names that might work include “The Victim Funk”, “The Blame Funk”, “The Shame Funk”, or the “The I CAN’T DO IT Funk.” You name it so you identify it as something different then you, make sense?
Step 4. Push reset.
Push that reset button again and again and again. I want to make one of those “easy” buttons from Staples, but I want it to say “reset” on it. How fantastic would that be? It’s a reminder to consistently realign with your purpose and your intention. We need this even when we aren’t in a funk. But when we are held up, that button will be essential to hit, punch or lovely tap multiple times a day. Each grumpy or negative thought, idea, or action we do, we choose to start over and reset our space. When we realign with what we want we can create from that place and the negative stuff will take second stage. You can create something new in every moment.
Step 5. Validate.
Validate the little things that are going well. This is the snowball effect. Once you get a glimpse of light back into your space by validating something very small, the next thing becomes easier to validate and so on. Then you are back to living in more validation instead of living in invalidation. So, go ahead and validate to how much you ROCK!!
So cheers to YOU and clearing the resistance! Can’t wait to hear about the flip side of that funk!
In Health and Healing,